Today we're spending some time with Robyn, who was recently matched for her third surrogacy journey.
Tell us a bit about yourself and your family.
I’m 35 years old and a native Texan! My husband Rolando and I have been married since 2008 and our son Benjamin completed our family in 2012. He keeps us busy with karate, soccer, choir, and chess club. We recently rescued two cats and they have brought a lot of laughs into our home.
Tell us about your surrogacy story.
Being a two-time surrogate has given me so much to be proud of and many amazing memories, and I'm very fortunate to have matched with two wonderful families who continue to keep in touch with me. I matched with my first couple in March 2013. We successfully transferred in November and a healthy boy was delivered in July 2014. It didn’t take very long for me to decide on a second journey, and I matched with another family in May 2015. After an eventful transfer where it was decided to transfer two embryos instead of just one, we received confirmation of twins and a brother and sister were delivered safely in June 2016. It’s been over five years since the twins were born, and I feel like my heart has been telling me to do this one last time for a while now. I'm very hopeful for a third journey.
What inspired you to become a surrogate?
I was inspired by a friend who decided to become a surrogate shortly before I applied. To be honest, I initially applied with ConceiveAbilities as an egg donor before switching paths to surrogacy, and I’m so happy I did!
How did you know it was the right time for your family to embark on your surrogacy journey?
Our son was about 18 months old and we felt fairly certain that we were a one-and-done family, so it took me about two months to submit my application after ConceiveAbilities responded to my initial inquiry.
How did your partner, friends and family feel about your decision and how did they support you?
After getting my husband’s support, I was so happy to find that family and friends were also excited for me. Even my grandparents were excited to gain new “surro-grandchildren”!
Tell us about matching with your intended parents.
Matching was probably the easiest part of the process! The work that ConceiveAbilities does behind the scenes to find such amazing matches is beyond anything I could have dreamed of. Both of our match meetings were facilitated by a mediator and they guided us smoothly through all facets of the process, so it was easy to focus on getting to know each other instead of feeling weighed down by the details.
How does it feel to be able to give the gift of family?
I am very fortunate to have had “easy” pregnancies, and using that to my advantage and being able to help two amazing families grow in such a meaningful way has been an experience that can’t fully be put into words. I am so grateful.
What has been the most rewarding part of your surrogate experience?
What could be more rewarding than seeing the look of absolute awe and love on new parents’ faces? Not only was I lucky enough to help complete two families, but realizing that you’re making parents and grandparents and aunts and uncles… the impact of these journeys is deeper than we initially imagine.
How did becoming a surrogate change your life?
Becoming a surrogate opened my eyes to the realities of infertility that I had never really been exposed to in my life. It was also important to me to share the ins and outs of the surrogacy process with my friends and family. I was able to answer questions and clear up any misconceptions they might have had.
What is something you wish you had known or was surprising to you about becoming a surrogate?
I think the most surprising thing I learned during this process was just how much goes into IVF. Science is incredible! I’m also very confident in my skills of self-administering injections now!
What advice would you give someone thinking about becoming a surrogate?
Be 100% open and honest with yourself about what you might be asked or expected to do. Being responsible for the life of someone else’s child might seem like an overwhelming experience at times, but it’s so worth it in the end.
Tell us about your experience with ConceiveAbilities
I have had nothing but positive experiences with ConceiveAbilities! From the hard work that is done to match surrogates to intended parents, to holding our hands throughout the legal stage, to coordinating and facilitating important hospital meetings and deadlines. I know there are successful surrogates out there who don’t use an agency, but I loved having peace of mind that ConceiveAbilities was in my corner and always there if I needed help.
Any other wisdom on being a surrogate that you think would help someone on their journey that we didn’t ask?
The saying "patience is a virtue" took on a whole new meaning when I started my surrogacy journey. I used to think I hated waiting, but nothing can compare to the waiting you do while embarking on such an adventure. Every journey takes time and patience, some more than others, and it's so important to remember what (and who) you're doing this for!
Thanks for sharing your story with us, @bobyn - best wishes to you on your third surrogacy journey!