We've seen a lot of @Ashtin G in the Surrogacy Learning Resources video series. Ashtin is the Surrogate Engagement Coordinator at ConceiveAbilities, and today she's sharing the story of her two surrogacy journeys.
Tell us a little about yourself.
Hi! I'm Ashtin, I currently live in Indiana with my amazing husband of 11 years, Jeff, and our three beautiful kids, two boys (Masen and Brooks) and a girl (Gracie) and we can't forget Winston, our french bulldog. I'm a two-time surrogate (sibling journey) to Silas and Sloane.
When were you called to surrogacy?
Being a surrogate has always been on my mind. My husband and I started dating in high school and got married just after college; I remember a few conversations where we spoke about helping another family have children once our family was complete. Even then, without knowing anything about surrogacy, he never questioned me. About a year after we decided our family was complete, a childhood friend came back into my life. She was on her first journey carrying a beautiful little boy for the most deserving dads-to-be. I knew in my heart I was ready. The rest was history, I applied in March 2018, delivered the most perfect little boy March 17, 2019, and completed Brian and Scott's family on June 4th, 2020, with their sweet little girl.
What has been the most surprising part of your surrogacy journey?
I never questioned being able to detach myself from the pregnancy. I knew from the second I met Brian and Scott, it was about them. I was always focused on them, every little milestone was always for them. I think that potential surrogates are already aware and open if they come into the process - and being a little nervous is normal. My comfort was my relationship with my intended dads. That connection was my drive.
What has been the most rewarding part of your surrogacy journeys?
I honestly feel like the lucky one. There isn't a day that passes that I don't think about Brian, Scott, Silas and Sloane. Being a surrogate has taught me more about myself than I thought possible. I've not only changed my life, but I believe I've opened the eyes of others. I made a difference. My passion and purpose is to be a mother, and now I can add being a surrogate. I found something bigger than myself. We all gained something beautiful when surrogacy brought us together!
Thanks for sharing your story, @Ashtin G!