Today we're spending some time with @Kkucmerowski, who recently completed a surrogacy journey.
Tell us a bit about yourself and your family.
I am a 35 year old wife to an amazing husband and mom to two girls, ages 6 and 4. I am a small business consultant with Paychex, my husband is a financial advisor, and my kids are involved in dance, gymnastics, soccer, and softball.
Tell us about your surrogacy story.
I was matched with a wonderful couple from my home state (I no longer live there so it was kind of cool). We agreed on so many of the important parts of the journey and what we both wanted from one another. I had a little girl for them and we still keep in contact. I am very grateful to ConceiveAbilities for matching me with them!
What inspired you to become a surrogate?
I couldn’t imagine not being a mother/parent and if I could help someone else/a couple have the child they so badly wanted, I figure why not? My husband and I were complete with our family, so we moved forward.
How did you know it was the right time for your family to embark on your surrogacy journey?
I was 32 when I started the journey. I wanted to do it close to the birth of my second daughter so I started it a year and a half later. I was cleared when I was 33 and delivered at 34. I knew we were happy with our family. Those are the two reasons I knew the timing was right.
How did your partner, friends and family feel about your decision and how did they support you?
They were all very supportive. My husband was not surprised that I wanted to do this at all. I had so much love, help, support and it was awesome!
Tell us about matching with your intended parents.
ConceiveAbilities did an amazing job!! We had 24 hours to say yes or no. My husband and I agreed that if it was not yes right away, that it was a no. Thankfully, all 4 of us said yes within minutes of getting off the call.
How does it feel to be able to give the gift of family?
The feeling is not something you can really describe. Having the ability to help a family grow while having the support that I had from my loved ones - just incredible! The BEST part of the entire journey was seeing the look on the IPs parents when she was born.
What has been the most rewarding part of your surrogate experience?
The delivery, as I said above, was by far the best part. Also, just bringing a life into the world in an amazing feeling.
How did becoming a surrogate change your life?
It gave me even more of an appreciation (which I did not think was possible) for my kids. Learning how so many people in the world cannot have kids of their own makes me sad but also makes me even more thankful for what I have with my own family.
What is something you wish you had known or was surprising to you about becoming a surrogate?
It would not change my decision to do what I did, but I wish I was more mentally prepared for how crappy the meds made me feel. I lost weight in the first trimester because I was so sick BUT once it was done, it is like I forgot that it even happened. It was totally worth it!
What advice would you give someone thinking about becoming a surrogate?
Make sure you and your partner/support system are 100% sure that this is the right time for you. It is more than a 9 month commitment. You have to be willing to travel depending where your IP's embryos are; there is a long process before you go for transfer, and transfer does not always happen on the first attempt. For me, I started the journey in 2018 and delivered in 2020. I also pumped afterwards, so all in all, it was about 3 years. It is beyond worth it, but it is a commitment and you will need/want support throughout it all.