Member Feature: Kristina Fabis

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We met @Kristina F. a few months ago and spoke about her surrogacy journeys and career. 

I'm an experienced surrogate.  I completed surrogacies in 2011 (singleton), 2014 (twin gestation) and 2016 (twin) for three different families. I currently am a nurse practitioner and part of a team that screens surrogates in preparation for matching them with a set of intended parents.  My background includes fifteen years experience as a Labor and Delivery and postpartum nurse.  While witnessing an infant's entrance into this world is pretty special, I find great joy in the role I play on the other end of things.  I work closely with reproductive endocrinologists and their IVF nurse coordinators. On the side, I am an Adjunct (OB) Professor.  The educator in me enjoys supporting and providing information about all things surrogacy to not only women pursing it but considering it as well.  (Never hesitate to reach out.)

Today we're hearing a bit more from @Kristina F. and her surrogacy story. 

Tell us a little about yourself. 

I'm Kristina and am happily married to my husband of almost 20 years. We'd only been married for 8 years when I started my first surrogacy journey. We have two children, a 26 year old daughter and an 18 year old son. I love to travel, be on the water, and am always looking to try something new!

When were you called to surrogacy? 

When my son was in kindergarten, one of his classmate's mother was a surrogate. She was the first surrogate I had ever met, so initially I turned to her with a few questions and for more information. While I knew what a surrogate was, I had never met one before. At this time, I was nearing the maximum age to become a surrogate. Although I was in the process of furthering my education, things at home were pretty stable as was my job as a labor and delivery nurse. I decided to apply and see what became of it. I am so glad that I did!

What has been the most surprising part of your surrogacy journeys? 

Most people in my life have had nothing but the kindest things to say about what I have done. However, my father initially did not understand what would compel me to become a surrogate. Interestingly enough, by the time I was carrying for my second and third sets of intended parents, it was this same man who couldn't not tell anyone he met about what I was doing fast enough! He sure was proud of the gift I was giving these families, and I think that watching everything unfold throughout my first journey helped him understand the magnitude of this gift.

What has been the most rewarding part of your surrogacy journies?

Hands down, the most rewarding part of my surrogacies has been watching my intended parents see a child they dreamed about enter the world. It truly brings the initial aspect of a journey full circle. The friendship and updates I get from these families I helped create has been equally rewarding.