Surrogate Kristi recently sat down with Mile High Mamas to discuss her decision to become a surrogate, and what the journey was like for her.
Why did you want to be a surrogate?
I have always loved kids! My background is in early childhood development and I worked in the classroom with infants and toddlers and was always around kids from a young age (babysitting, nannying). I worked with parents as well, and sometimes they were older parents. I heard stories about issues with fertility pretty often and it inspired me to become a surrogate. My heart really wanted me to do this.
Why was the time right for you?
I had just been through a divorce and I knew I would not be able to be a surrogate while being with him because he would not pass a background check. When we divorced I felt that I had my life back and that I could do whatever I wanted to, and the first thing I wanted to do was become a surrogate.
How did you choose ConceiveAbilities/your surrogacy agency?
I found ConceiveAbilities by a simple google search! I looked around on the internet for different agencies and liked ConceiveAbilities the best because it felt “legit” and it was big enough for me. I was worried about getting scammed so I wanted a larger surrogacy agency with a long, credible history of helping families.
What were the requirements to be a surrogate/how can you apply?
To start, I filled out a 5-minute online application on their website. The requirements included being less than 38 years old with no tattoos or piercings in the last 6 months or year, have at least one child of your own, and no travel to Florida because of Zika virus. It also required a background check, house check, medical checks and a healthy weight.
How much money does a surrogate get paid in Denver?
ConceiveAbilities’ base pay for a first-time surrogate begins at $44,000 and they encourage women to put their zip code into their calculator to find out if their area is a high-demand area. For Denver, the base pay for a first-time surrogate begins at $52,000.
What would you tell women who want to learn more about the process of becoming a surrogate?
Well, there are two types of women who want to become surrogates: ones that care about compensation and others that really want to do it and have a selfless heart. I felt like I have been kind of “called” to become a surrogate.
What were some misconceptions you had about surrogacy? How did you handle friends’ and families’ misconceptions about surrogacy?
The first misconception was that my egg was going to be used. Everyone would say, “oh, you’re going to give your baby away to someone else” and my response to them was, “nope this is not my baby, not even a little bit. This is their egg, their sperm, and their baby.” The second misconception was that I did it just for the money. My response was, “no, when you sign up to do this you have to understand that your life is on the line, worst-case scenario. And secondhand infertility is a real thing.” My family and friends were supportive and they would say to me, “this is so you!”